"Jealousy is one of the strongest drives known to man.
There are actually two forms: a legitimate jealousy based upon love and an illegitimate jealousy based upon envy.
Legitimate jealousy sparks when someone you love, who belongs to you, turns his or her heart away and replaces you with someone else...
.we will shift our focus to the illegitimate kind of jealous that is in opposition to love, the one that is rooted in selfishness. This is to be jealous of someone to be 'moved with envy.'
It has been said that people are fine with your succeeding, just as long as it is not more than theirs. Jealousy is a common struggle. If you're not careful, jealousy slithers like a viper into your heart and strikes your motivations and relationships.
When you were married, you were given the role of becoming your spouse's biggest cheerleader and the captain of his/her fan club. Both of you became one and were to share in the enjoyment of the other. But if selfishness rules, any good thing happening to only one of you can be a catalyst for envy rather than congratulations.
A loving husband doesn't mind his wife being better at something, having more fun, or getting more applause. He sees her as completing him, not competing him.
A loving wife will be the first to cheer for her man when he wins. She does not compare her weaknesses to his strengths.
It is time to let love, humility, and gratefulness destroy any jealousy that springs up in your heart. It's time to let your mate's successes draw you closer together and give you greater opportunities to show genuine love.
Today's Dare
Determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy.
To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements,
take yesterday's list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it.
Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he/she recently enjoyed.
Well, it wasn't really an issue burning the list, I was more than willing to get rid of the contradicting complaints that I use when I want to get or stay mad at him. Due to inclement weather, again, he had no work for a day. He got to sleep in until almost noon, he didn't call me until he had been up for nearly 2 hours and the conversation was brief because he was about to stare gaming online with friends. I barely got to speak to him the rest of the night. I could have been jealous of his freedom, especially since I was stuck in the house ,my daughter was bothered by missing school due to snow and my son was having a lot of health issue that had caused me to spend the night in the E.R. with him just a couple of nights before, but I chose to be happy for him. I told him how glad I was that he got to spend that time to himself.
Normally, I would throw a pity party, so of course he wasn't sure how to react when I said this. He just kept saying " What do you mean?" and in trying to choose my words wisely, I just explained that even though the snow had messed up my schedule, I was glad that one of us was enjoying their day. At least one of us had a chance to relax and I just found a little bit of comfort in the fact that he was happy. He deserved a day to himself for all that he does. I guess he let his guard down and accepted what I was saying because he agreed with me and thanked me for saying so.
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