"Love thinks. It's not a mindless feeling that rides on waves of emotion and falls asleep mentally. It keeps busy in thought, knowing that loving thoughts precede loving actions. If you don't learn to be thoughtful,you end up regretting missed opportunities to demonstrate love. Thoughtlessness is a silent enemy to a loving relationship.
Love requires thoughtfulness-on both sides- the kind that builds bridges through the constructive combination of patience,kindness,and selflessness. Love teaches you how to meet in the middle, to respect and appreciate how your spouse uniquely thinks.
A husband should listen to his wife and learn to be considerate of her unspoken messages. A wife should learn to communicate truthfully and not say one thing while meaning another."
Today's Dare
Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day.
Have no agenda other than asking how he/she is doing
and if there is anything you can do for them.
Not to boast, but I have been doing this for almost 6 years.
When I first stopped working,due to pregnancy complications, I slept ALOT. Back then I didn't really make the best of my days, so I would sleep in pretty late, but I always tried to prep my husband for his next day before I went to bed. I would lay out his clothes, make sure there was something to drink for him in the morning, and by his clothes I would try and leave him a note telling him how much I loved him. It got harder to make the time to write him little notes after my first child was born, so I would make sure that I called him the minute I got up.
My call would go something like this "Hey I'm up, just wanted to call and say I love you, have a good day, be careful and let me know if you need me to do anything" or some version of that. It has been almost 6 years now and I still,no matter what, make that first morning call. I do it so religiously that now my daughter calls him on her way to school to tell him "Good morning daddy, Have a good day at work and I love you!"
I can say that, to my knowledge, I have never let a day pass where I have not started my day off telling my husband that I love him and want him to stay safe. Over the years the calls have gotten more frequent due to the type of job he does. He is constantly driving and has to climb a ladder or the pole to get to the cable lines so I wonder everyday if he is okay, so I periodically check on him. There are some times that I happen to call him and he is up on a pole and, oh my god, my heart stops and I just tell him I love him and hang up. I would hate for anything to happen to him while I am on the phone with him, or even because he is on the phone with me.
So as far as sticking with today's dare, I had no problems, not only because I already do it, but also because he was driving back to work out of town so I spent the majority of my day calling and checking on him.
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