" If there were ever a word that basically means the opposite of love,it is selfishness.
Loving couples-the ones who are enjoying the full purpose of marriage-are bent on taking good care of the other flawed human they get to share life with.
Love is never satisfied except in the welfare of others.
Love also leads to inner joy. When you prioritize the well being of your mate, there is a resulting fulfillment that cannot be duplicated by selfish actions. The truth, when you relinquish your rights for the sake of your mate, you get a chance to lose yourself to the greater purpose of marriage."
Today's Dare
Along with restraining from negative comments,
buy your spouse something that says
"I was thinking of you today."
I must admit, I am not really following these rules to the fine detail, but I actually think it is working better for me this way. I had to curb each days dare around my lifestyle but still stay true to the basic concept.
We are actually in the beginning stages of becoming debt free by using the Total Money Makeover system. In order to stick to this goal, we have to use restraint when it comes to unnecessary spending which mean I had to find other ways to show my husband that I was thinking of him before myself.
Here are a few of the ways I demonstrated the lack of selfishness:
When he mentioned he was thinking of coming home because he didn't want to be stuck in a hotel in this weather, I told him that his safety was more important to me than having him here to help with the kids.
He came home to me anyway!!
I relinquished control of the remote, in the middle of watching Cake Boss! Laugh all you want, this was a breakthrough for me.
Every request he had was met with a smile and a "no problem", even if it meant putting what I was already doing, on hold.
You know when it comes to a gift, they always say "it's the thought that counts." Well I stayed true to this, I thought about it so well that the gift was the thought that I put into it.
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