"Love is built on two pillars that best define what it is. Those pillars are patience and kindness. All other characteristics of love are extensions of these two attributes."
"When you choose to be patient, you respond in a positive way to a negative situation.You are slow to anger. Rather than being restless and demanding, love helps you settle down and begin extending mercy to those around you. Patience is where love meets wisdom. And every marriage needs that combination to stay healthy.
Few of us do patience very well, and none of us do it naturally. But wise men and women will pursue it as an essential ingredient to their marriage relationships."
So, we begin with patience, which is something I am in short supply of on a daily basis, so I can already see that getting through this is going to be a big step for me.
I have always thought that I did not start the arguments between my husband and I, so why are we where we are now. Well, because I never really tried to prevent them either. Practicing patience today definitely tested my willingness to prevent a simple disagreement from turning into a full blown " I want a divorce" argument.
Sometimes,more often than not and whether they like to admit it or not, men get snippy. Their tone and volume just tweak slightly and that's when you know the egg shells have come out, and you have to STEP LIGHTLY!
Men, if women can admit to this, then so should you!!
Today, I chose to use my tone and volume in a positive way.When Nick and I were discussing finances and I stated that I didn't really understand what he was saying, he seemed to get preterbed and you could hear it in his voice.
I chose to calmly say " Don't get upset, I am not saying that I don't agree with you, I just feel like I don't understand what you are saying fully so I don't want to make a haste decision until we fully understand what we are doing."
This approached worked perfectly. I could have immediately had a sarcastic comeback, or even came back with an attitude also, but I chose to stay patient and choose my words wisely.
I can honestly say that I believe today was a success!
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